Put Your Money Where Your Mouse Is.

As a work from home mom of 2 boys, one of which is on the autism spectrum, I spend a great deal of time on line looking up the latest tips, techniques and strategies in my quest for being the "world's greatest parent"…but what I have come to find more often than not are nasty, lashing, mean spirited comments to generally benign, opinion based articles written by well meaning authors.  It seems that topics like “the family bed” and “potty training” have hit some kind of personal nerve recently because everyone, whether they are parents or not, have suddenly grown the most amazing set of internet balls ever and are bravely unleashing their venom on anyone who dares to have an opposing opinion or is ignorant enough to be unaware of a personal tragedy that happened to them when they were 2 years old which has scarred them for life. 

Really people?  Is this what our “village” of parenting has come to?  Insult, ridicule and judgment over topics that truly have very little effect on your life at all what-so-ever…

My beef is the fact that there are children in our country who are still being abused, both physically and verbally by their parents on a daily basis…there are children being neglected, starved and even killed by the people who are supposed to be raising and protecting them and we have the audacity to tear each other up on-line over whether or not we should be allowed to take our kids to a local, adults only, 4 star restaurant?!?!? 

Some people have no problem ripping parents a new one if they dare to let their child run in the isles of a grocery store, yet the person next door to at least one of us is refusing their child meals and locking them in a closet as punishment…Now, THAT would be a moment to stand up and proclaim your arguement, right?...yet in the face of "real threat to child welfare"  suddenly those big balls shrink up like you've  jumped into a cold shower…

So here's MY opinion BB's:  The next time you feel compelled to talk smack on a mother who chooses to give her child a pacifier…think about all the babies who are being shaken or beaten for crying too much, then bite your tongue; Because in the grand scheme of things, those of us who are looking for information on line are simply doing the best we can with the information, resources and support we have available.  So if your comments aren’t offering me one of those things, then truthfully, you aren’t doing anything more than giving yourself 2 minutes of underserved fame, so keep your comments to yourself. 

Bottom line: If you comment critics are such “child advocates” with such BIG opinions and BIG mouths…how about using that BIG voice to start a campaign that people can get behind.  One that helps people, helps kids and really matters…in other words BBs:  put your money where your mouse is.