Helping Autistic Kids Become More Flexible

"I am the mom of a 10 year old with Asperger's Syndrome ( a form of autism). I am also a coach, author, and business owner...so when my son engages me in conversations, (even if the conversation is simply a creative avoidance tactic) I take the bait! What I have found is that when I make requests of my son that are out of his comfort zone (ie: asking him to get off the computer so we can go to dinner) he begins a process of escalation which includes rude comments and behaviors that require me to try to "talk him down"...this talking down sequence typically results in me either forgetting my original request or me lessening my original request thereby giving in to his tantrum.